Every little girl dreams about what her husband will be like one day. Movies have taught us to dream big. They have taught us to dream for Prince Charming sweeping us off our tired feet; sweeping us away from whatever hell we live in. Television has taught us to dream for a white picket fence and a husband who will take care of us and pay for anything and everthing we want.

In today's world you are either at the top or the bottom. I don't need to be at the top, but I certainly don't want to be at the bottom. I dont need to dream, I need to do. You can't dream for something if you don't take a chance to make it happen. Life doesn't find you, you have to find it. You can't wait for a man to sweep you off your feet if you are sitting on your couch watching soap operas saying, "Why can't I have that life?". Over two years ago I was definitely that girl. I would sit at home watching Friends wishing to be Rachael (Jennifer Aniston), she had the perfect life and the perfect relationship with Ross (David Schwimmer). She also had the perfect hair! But I realized that I didn't need to be Rachael, I just need to be me and love being me.

In the movies Prince Charming shouldn't get all the credit for saving the Princess' life. She has to find herself and love herself first before she can love him and love at
all. I had my downs with dating until I loved myself and realized that I am good enough and that he should be too. My boyfriend is more than enough. He has shown me with the love he has for me and the love he has for his children that life is more than dreaming.

You were in my dreams and now have become my reality.
I didn't need a fairy tale, I didn't need a castle.
I needed someone to hold, someone to love.
I didn't need a million dollars or a house on the beach.
I needed someone true to themselves, and true to me.
I wanted a reality come true, I wanted someone like you.

Dreams are made of cotton candy, lollipops, and candy canes.
Life is made of ups and downs, the good and bad, right and wrong.
A relationship isn't what you dream, it's what you make.
You can dream for happiness, but only we can make it happen.
My reality has come true, because I am in love with you.

Not just a wristband

Breast Cancer. A word no woman wants to hear and recently no man either. Scary, dark, depressing, emotional, life changing. Those are just some of the words that come to mind when I think about breast cancer and I haven't even been effected by it. Though, that is not completey true. I am a woman. October, as many of you probably know, is national breast cancer awareness month. A few years ago I bought 5 yellow LiveStrong wristbands when my friend Danielle died of cancer at the age of 23. I told myself I would always think of her and always support the LiveStrong Foundation. A few months after I bought the yellow wristbands I bought 5 pink ones with the quote, "Share Beauty, Spread Hope", on them. I gave both the yellow and pink bands out to friends and family members in hopes that they too would support both Cancer and Breast Cancer foundations. I know many people wore the wristbands as part of a trend, but I wanted to show that I cared. I can't remember how the wristbands came off my arm and why I stopped wearing them for a while. It could have been in part because of the trend it was becoming and I didn't want to be associated with that... in part because I hate trends...everyone looks the same... I dare to be myself. Although I shouldn't have been bothered about the trend, I should have just been thinking of the friend that I lost and the women it effects.

Not even thinking about the national breast cancer awareness month coming up, about a month ago I was doing some cleaning and located my pink wristband. And yes... I put it on. Last week I was watching some footage on T.V. about the 3-day walk and I just lost it. The love, support, courage, heart, and soul that each team has, brought me to tears. Woman, men, children, young, old, black, white... everyone is touched. Even if you have no family history, you know someone who does, or you know a friend of a friend. I wear my wristband and I wear it for them. I wear it for myself, I wear it for my mother, my sisters, my friends, my grandmothers who aren't here, my boyfriends mother and sisters, and for my boyfriends daughters. I wear it proud.